Islamic scholar Malam Daurawa has cautioned couples against treating divorce as the easiest solution to marital disputes, arguing that the consequences of separation often outweigh the challenges of preserving a marriage.
In a message shared on his official Facebook account, Daurawa stated that while many people view divorce as a quick escape from marital problems, its emotional, financial and social costs make it far more expensive than marriage itself.
According to him, the cost of divorce extends beyond money, affecting the emotional well-being of spouses, the upbringing of children, family relationships and society at large.
He identified emotional trauma as one of the greatest consequences of divorce, noting that the pain experienced by husbands, wives and children can linger for years.
“Divorce leaves deep emotional scars on husbands, wives and children. In many cases, the pain takes years to heal,” he wrote.
The cleric also highlighted the impact on children, describing them as the greatest victims when parents separate. He explained that many children lose parental care, affection and proper moral guidance after a divorce, which can negatively affect their development.
On the financial implications, Daurawa noted that divorce often leads to additional expenses, including legal proceedings, child care responsibilities and the costs associated with starting a new life after separation.
He further warned that divorce can damage relationships between extended families, creating hostility and destroying long-standing bonds that once united both families.
The scholar also raised concerns over the loss of dignity that sometimes accompanies marital breakdowns. He said former spouses may expose each other’s private matters, exchange accusations and engage in actions that contradict Islamic teachings on protecting personal honour.
According to Daurawa, divorce can also trigger psychological challenges such as loneliness, anxiety, stress and emotional instability, making it difficult for affected individuals to rebuild their lives.
While acknowledging that Islam permits divorce when reconciliation becomes impossible, he stressed that it should only be considered as a last resort after all peaceful means of resolving disputes have been exhausted.
He encouraged couples to fear Allah in their marriages, exercise patience, maintain open and respectful communication, forgive one another’s shortcomings and seek mediation from respected family elders or Islamic scholars whenever conflicts escalate.
Daurawa also urged Muslims to increase their prayers, reminding them that Allah alone has the power to soften hearts and restore broken relationships.
Quoting the Qur’an, he referenced the verse that says, “And if they intend reconciliation, Allah will bring about harmony between them,” emphasising that sincere efforts toward peace are rewarded by Allah.
He concluded by calling on communities to educate people about the true responsibilities of marriage, saying that although marriage requires patience and sacrifice, divorce can leave behind losses that are difficult to repair.
He prayed for Allah to unite the hearts of married couples, bless Muslim homes and protect families from conflict and division.
