Media personality Toke Makinwa has revealed why she no longer buys gifts for men, saying a past relationship experience completely changed her perspective.
Speaking on an episode of her podcast, Toke recalled buying thoughtful gifts for a former partner, only to later discover that they were not valued the way she had expected. The experience left her deeply disappointed.
According to Toke, that experience made her draw a personal boundary. She said she has since stopped buying gifts for men because she no longer wants to invest emotionally in gestures that go unappreciated.
The media personality explained that gift giving is an expression of care and thoughtfulness. For her, appreciation matters just as much as the gift itself, and a lack of it can be hurtful.
Her comments quickly sparked debate online. While many agreed that appreciation is essential in relationships, others argued that every relationship is different and should not be judged by one experience.
Toke’s story has reignited conversations about reciprocity, gratitude, and emotional investment in relationships. Many social media users say the issue isn’t the gifts themselves but whether both partners value each other’s efforts.
